There is an expectation that Black people, and women especially, will humble themselves before the supposed greatness of whiteness and maleness. That we will be humble in our achievements, because we are intended to be invisible in our labor that benefits white pockets. Well, it seems those days are dead, and good riddance!

2021 has exited, 2022 has come in and as it’s still early, there are already these discussions, resolutions if you will, of finishing the things we start this year. Attached to letting go the shame of not finishing things in the past. But who defines what finished looks like for you? 

It’s already here … the holiday season. “The most wonderful time of the year,” or is it just really the time of year when people, ie. your relatives, seem to just do “the most?” After spending last year’s holidays sheltering in place or with smaller gatherings, many of us may find ourselves invited to or planning to attend larger-sized family gatherings. Although they can be a great time, they can also be a source of strong anxiety and even trauma for some.

The illustrious 🚩 emoji. I guess now it’s popular to air them out since the general news media has picked up on it and because social media says it’s ok to “flag” people, situations, and things. But what if I told you that it’s been ok to flag them? …